Choosing my Destiny

In my adulthood, I often think of times past, and realise that i have memories that haunt me to this day.

My recollection of happy memories are few, I started to ask myself WHY? this was so prominent the good Vs. the bad / ugly / hurtful.

Something I believe, the fact that we’re spiritual beings, for me being christian, I believe in the god who created me in His image and likeness. The human garment we wear on earth will grow weary with time until we are laid to rest, what really is impacted is the SOUL while we are here on this earth and when we move to the next. How can I be happy from within, make my soul happy and live a life of contentment and healing?

The thought then occurred to me ” how can I choose a present and a future of happiness?” – The answer I find most fitting is~ Choosing to respond to situations rather than react to them.

We’re a power house of energy and what we give out, we will get in return. When we are young we are taught to “say nice & good things” – Religion teaches us to “think good thoughts, and speak positive words – Life teaches us “Choose your words for they become your actions”. – In all of these statements, it really means, what you harbour in your mind / soul will come through your words and your actions. So no matter how nice you are to me to my face your intentions will speak louder and your actions will tell me what you harbour in your heart for me.

In life, we are faced with people like this all the time, mostly in our families, which is why we get affected, because our expectations of someone’s behaviour doesn’t not suit our actions towards them or our perception of what we would like to accept. However, I now think, “Do I even know the capability or the capacity of the opposite person to have reacted the way they did?”. Like a friend of mine often said “everything in hindsight is 20/20” :). Most surely! but it’s a good practice to look back to realise that maybe it’s something I have done in the past to deserve the reaction. I’m a believer of the saying “what goes around, comes around” – “Karma!” but i have now begun to believe “the Karma is in each of us” what power we give others is the same power we must question. Is the power the positive or the negative. When i think about all the times i feel “worthless, less loved, constantly measured against my siblings, not being good enough for anyone to love, or whether i have the right to feel sometimes,” it’s the power i’m send out to everyone to think of me that way, therefore I will look at all their reactions the same way.

To change the way we think about ourselves is important. If we appreciate, say positive things to ourselves and love ourself for who we are, for knowing our strengths and weaknesses, then there is no reaction to how others perceive us. The world will see us through their magnifying glass of what they want to perceive, it is important to build a strong foundation of self love and respect.

Choosing to respond rather than react: In the world of unforgiving personalities we live in, it’s ever so often that we have taken to reaction rather than response. There is a need to constantly swell and nurture the ego we all possess. What i’ve learnt through my experiences and with people around me, is that there is only YOU that hurts from reaction. If I learn to respond with my energy of positivity and looking to transform what comes to me as negative with a positive thought or words, then I have won the battle within me.

3 things we can choose to do when we face unfavourable feelings / actions / words from others :

1) React with equal or more action ….

2) Accept / ignore (but harbour negativity towards them)

3) transform their negative energy with positive energy.

Which one would you choose? .- This choice comes with consequences so choose wisely.

Change the narrative in your mind to see the reactions change towards you.

As we age and move into the uncertain future of life, there is only one thing we can practice doing, i.e. learning to accept ourselves and love ourselves. There isn’t anyone who decides our FATE or our DESTINY, we do!…. We choose to respond to situations that will have an equal or opposite reaction to our lives in the years to come. When we can master the art of giving positive power to people we will transform our lives. Meditate to learn more about yourself. Forgive, you cannot change the past, it’s gone, what you can do is create a present and look to a positive future. So, while we go back and forth battling with our feelings of guilt, hurt and resentment, it’s creating nothing but HURT for you. Learn to look ahead and live in the present. People operate from their insecurities, they will hurt you and you them. The only person who can heal you is YOU!. Noone knows you better than you know yourself.

Practice sending only positive energy to people, stay away from the negativity and toxicity of negative energy, but create a light within you, that, when you walk into a room, people will smile and want to know you. That’s the energy you carry and you will always be, what you wish to be, you create your destiny. Don’t let the world determine your present or your future, CHOOSE TO RESPOND not to REACT.

Her Q’s and Her A’s – MY FUQ’s

Read this puhleezeee ? -I bet you’ll be Thankful :)

I’m so bored out of my mind that this lockdown and covid 19 has put hormones, Seratonin, testosterone, gramophones??? iphones???, estrogen, progesterone!… and Emotional Quotient to the test.

NOw after 4 weeks or more, i can’t remember days / dates ?? whichever is higher, i have got all my chakras in line, i can now see the benefit of these days in solitude , sorry ! ISOLATION!!!!! taking a really positive turn.

So, i had to trick my mind from going into depression and started thinking what are all the positive things i can list instead of COMPLAINING!…and BELIEVE YOU ME! there are quite a few and i’m sure on reading this, U will definitely start seeing this lockdown as a time to reset.

This time, has made me realize i haven’t worn underwear in 4 weeks, — say wahhaaaa???  —yeah! the blessing of roaming half naked in your household and not having to run in when the doorbell rings…— hahah! … ALthough, my mother is still wondering when decency will kick into my brain and cover up my ever so large body!….huh! u think that’s going to get me!….nah!!!! i’m enjoying being scantily dressed and just so much ‘skin-breathing’…..(yoga smiling pose!)

You have more hair than the Grizzly! — But c’moon! who cares noone’s really looking anymore. except! yourself.– ahem! it can be disturbing to some to know how much hair you can grow. I think it’s time to shave — Just putting it out there !!! tots your choice!…Also in a way you don’t have to worry, coz social distancing isn’t really making you do the ‘Bang! bang! on the double bed’…so why bother! — for men! you’ve heard the phrase….” COVER THE FACE & ***** the base”…so don’t hesitate, noone’s going to bother.

That new found ability to cook just enough for 2 or the family, coz you don’t think you’re eating the same thing again, besides what the hell are you going to do with the remaining 94hrs in the day??? so try your hand at all the new dishes you’ve always wanted to eat. Open that Mamma’s recepie book and try that badly written recepie. You have time to figure out the – OUNCE = POUND= MAAP= Cutori+ Moothi= CAN = Just a little!!!—-

You have seen and spent so much time with household members that, you have begun to counsel each other on the strengths and weaknesses that you overlooked all these years.  UPSIDE: alot more appreciation can take you a long way. in the future of that relationship.. DOWNSIDE : quite a few divorces & separations or breakups on the rise! —- Hmmm!

You have this wonderful moment now that you realise ‘ cleanliness is next to godliness’ and you are cleaning day and night, and if you are my mother, you would even do it after you clean the first time.  The mop and you are friends, the broom and your spouse should be having an affair.   Now you truly see your spouse as the person you wanted to marry…because that’s what they did before you got married….

This time has fewer reprimands from parents to children, who  are used to shouting at their kids saying ” WASH YOUR HANDS before your meals- clean your room —“….— now children are telling their parents ” I hope you washed your hands before you cooked”. —- bahahahha!

> This time has children spending time at home with parents and people rushing home to be with their parents, when usually they would be out for 24 hrs and not be seen for the next 24 hours because they were hungover!!!—- NOw!…you have them 24X7… So much quality time i tell ya!!!!! — SO much!!!! it’s kinda annoying on both fronts!.

you try to color your nails and find a host of DIY ideas off pinterest to work with odds n ends…— I mean! — seriously, i have nails growing over my skin, ’cause i have stopped biting them and now i paint them every 2 days with different colors….just so i’m not bored looking at them— 😦 :(…– but yaaayyy!!!

you can fart loudly at home and noone is going to be bothered….they are all distancing themselves anyway!!!!— infact if you are 2 or more members, this could be a symphony… ( Hmmmm! something new to try!)

>  everyone around u i stifling a cough / sneeze and they actually use their handkerchief or use the bathroom!!!!—- this is something i’m so proud off!…coz my mother always says!…HABITS begin at HOME!…and do spend this time to train and teach the elders and the young ones’….

just a funny! to throw in right now: Finally!…i realized, you can’t really call someone and talk for hours anymore, coz there’s NOTHING NEW to tell….everyone is doing the ABSOLUTE same thing you are doing!!!! — So no surprises there!..

Keep it short — Keep it clean – and keep smiling, coz living is so much better than dying. Be thankful, these are moments you want to note down and shall go down in history….make memories while you can!

I’m outta here!!!! — well! technically not!  😦  — I’ll be back soon! ;)…

CIAO!

 

& THEN THE 40s CAME!

via & THEN THE 40's CAME!

My POPS, takes the Cake.

My

via My POPS, takes the Cake..

You gotta have some like mine ;)…

You gotta have some like mine ;)….

Cupid just flew past !!!! — wooooosssshh!

Cupid just flew past !!!! — wooooosssshh!.

My Mother and other Drugs

My Mother and other Drugs.

New Interview after 2yrs

Hey ya’lllll!
What up!..sup!..

I’m back. I’ve been freelancing as a corporate language trainer, and I gave up looking for full time jobs for a bit, and thought I should give other areas of talent a chance in my life. :). So i started baking and while i did my freelance work, it helped a bit, figured! I am quite good at this baking thing. In the middle of being jobless and penniless, i got to go for an awesome holiday to visit my sister in Australia, and that will be another story on my other blog, so check it out.

Anyway coming back to this topic. Recently I got a call from a real estate HR personnel (this is a big wig of realties in India), so i was surprised to receive the call. I had posted my resume for a secretarial post on a job portal and it’s been a while since i sat for an interview, and i was rather surprised since it was a whole new profile.

Anyway I was interviewing for ‘Personal Assistant to the MD’. I met with the HR head on a very hot sunny afternoon, at his plush office not too far out from where I live.
I thought this would be different, lol! what a surprise. He asked me questions like.

HR: why do you want to be a secretary?
ME: Because i believe i have the skill sets to do it.

HR: How will you manage an angry boss?
ME: I don’t know…Hmm!..be mature about it.
HR: looks at me with one eye-brow raised (i don’t know how he does it) but looked wierd like Jonny Bravo!..and then had a lazy eye. :)hahahah. So i couldn’t read that expression too well.

HR: Are you married? Will you be getting married anytime soon?, how old are you?
ME: (thinking!) all questions were asked backwards 😉 hahahaha Ans: NO! God willing! 33!
HR: Lazy eye moves!..eyelid closes…

HR:We will have to re-negotiate salary!
Me: (thinking!)…Yeah! fat chance – been waiting too long for this baby– Ans: SMILE!sweetly!
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NEW story:

I came home and i received a call and a very strange one from a consultant i had spoken to earlier, the call went something like this.

Person: Baritone – HEllo! are you Anjali?
ME: yes! who is this?

Nitwit: I’m calling because i got your phone no.?
Me: Really! from whom?

Nitwit: XYZ…so have I caught you at a bad time?
ME: Hmm!.Ok! no, go ahead.

Nitwit: My name is ABC? So, tell me what’s your strongest point? and why do you want to train? Tell me a little about yourself?
Me: Hmm…k (thinking!–this guy just sounds high on drugs or something) — Answered his questions.

Nitwit: So, you’re a localite!hmmm, where do you think i’m from?
ME: thinkking – like i care!..Ans: Well! i’m not sure, why don’t you tell me.
Nitwit : Guess!
ME: Thinking! Fuck! is this guy for real!…Ans: not really in the mood for that.

Nitwit: as I told you i’m from the co. i called you.
ME: OKAY THEN!

Nitwit: So you are the first child, or last child?
ME: Middle, how does that really matter.? (sounded very confused at that question)
Nitwit: K so ur not married? how old are you
ME: 43: why? NO!.(Shithead)

Ntiwit: you said your strongest point is “communication” but you’re not communicating.
ME: Hmmm, well i answered ur questions.

Nitiwit: Ok! i will get XYZ to call you back.
ME: thinking! – DOn’t bloody bother! Ans: Sure, on 2nd thought I’ll call him.

Checking out his whatsapp picture later after the call — He had the picture of a DEVIL..and he sure sounded like one!..>Phew!..wierdoooooooo.

Do HR people really explain themselves well enough, I do think they need classes on etiquette and ways of interviewing people.
Sometimes i think HR personnel are insensitive to other people’s needs. It’s a number’s game i agree, but what the heck! doesn’t the HUMAN element everrrr trigger?

If i did have the opportunity to ever train a bunch of HR ethusiasts, that’s the first thing i would teach them “ETIQUETTE”.

GOod luck to all of you going to interview…point to be noted…’you gotta learn to answer smartly and well! don’t let anyone tell you what skills you have”….or how much you’re capable of. Life’s a game and sometimes you just gotta prove you’re the best.

Good luck ya’ll and i’ll let you’ll know if i do get a full time soon ;).

Nincompoop – ever heard of ’em ?

Well! It’s been a while since i got on to my blog, but it’s been about a year and I kinda gave up believing that there were intelligent HR people to consider for job openings, so, i took to the other passions in my life and it’s proved alright.

I’m sure you’ve heard of the word ” NINCOMPOOP” if not the definition on the free online dictionary states ” a person who is silly, foolish or stupid, an incompetent or an extremely naive person”. It’s my favorite word lately for training dept. heads and other people who have dared to interview me along the way.

This is about an experience I had with a company that hired me for a week long process in training their new hires to interview and bluff their clients sitting in the USA. I didn’t know it until i took on the offer. Either way, I was interviewed by Yogi the bear (to put it subtly, but even the bear is more intelligent) & Princess Fiona (before she becomes an ogre) (All she had were the looks, she pretty much, failed in other areas of her performance). So keeping in mind these 2 characters, i took on the role to train their new hires who they claimed to be above average on their spoken skills, no doubt they have been better than most recruits I’ve seen.

The 2 nincompoops I met, brought little to the table in terms of knowledge and skill. I heard one trainer say to his trainees, and i quote “talk shit on the phone to the client but make it believable” – I mean really! how idiotic can that sound. Either way not to get in the way of their refined methodology, I resorted to my way of training and did the best i could. I was then summoned by the training manager “princess lea”, who flipped her locks from side to side, ever so often that it took away my attention from the crap she was talking.

After about 2 days I realized they not only spoke and taught rubbish but also that the entire management didn’t see through it. Being really happy that i wasn’t part of the organization i decided to voice my opinion about their methods, and well! i didn’t realize in all that time, they were actually afraid I would let the cat out of the bag.

They didn’t ask me to stay the entire week, because of the following reasons.

*I did not tell the trainees to make “shit” sound believable
*I saved the training department Rs. 4000 for my services on a day when there was no work.
*I told them what i thought of their methods when I was asked for my opinion.

If you don’t call such people ‘Nincompoops’ what better word is there? – oh yeah! numskull, nitwit, dimwit, twit, gonzo and …well! i think “nincompoop still rolls on this one!”.

You do judge an organization on the quality of people they hold, atleast I do. I do think all organizations especially their HR and Training departments should be in constant check of their employees and their working routines, to filter out what is really beneficial to the company.